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8/31/14 11:41 P

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Hi ladies, all my best to you always.

Linda, sorry to hear you were feeling so tires, but glad to hear no problems with the "D".

I am doing fine except for the sun burn I got yesterday. But I have been putting aloe vera on several times a day and I think it is helping. We all went out for a nice dinner together tonight as a late celebration for the bf's b-day. It was an all you can eat Asian BBQ place, I think I did okay on it. I tried to limit my meat and filled up on salad.

Good night and take care everyone

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8/31/14 8:56 P

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Today I woke up and went to church. For some reason, I have been very tired today. It rained this morning and I would guess that is why I feel fatigue. I did a small amount of shopping on the way home. I feel well and not experiencing D today.

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8/31/14 1:45 P

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Have a great Sunday everyone.

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8/31/14 12:45 A

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Thanks Linda! It was really warm today and we all got a little too much sun on us, especially me sitting up in the bleachers on my thighs and neck. But we had a good time and the bf stopped and got me some aloe vera after the game. There was no shade for us parents. Some people that had been to the games before knew enough to bring big shade tent things for their families or umbrellas. I didn't realize that the game was going to be at a different place then where they were practicing at the last few weeks. At that place there were a lot of trees lining the field to give you shade, and everyone just brought folding chairs as there were no bleachers. I brought my folding chair with me, but there was no where to set it down, and still wouldn't be any shade. So will have to bring my own shade thing, or umbrella, or ask to sit under someone else's. The team played really well, but the other team had a lot more experienced kids on it and they were really good and won.
Well have a great night.

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Saturday was very busy. I worked out at Curves and also walked 4.7 miles. It really was great although I can certainly felt it in my legs by the end of the day. I felt pretty well.

Cindy - thank you!

Janette - I hope that you enjoyed the football game.

I hope you all have a great Sunday!

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8/30/14 2:06 P

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Have a great Saturday everyone. We are going to be off to the bf's son's first football game.

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8/30/14 10:01 A

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Linda, sorry to hear about your friends. Have a great day!!

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Glad to hear from you Linda! So sorry to hear about all your friends and such. All my best to you all always. It has been busy here too. Have a great weekend.

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I just haven't been on the chat thread lately. I didn't realize so many days had passed. Um, it has been a rough week. One friend died, two friends fell and broke their hips this week. Isn't that strange? It was a rough week but things are getting back to normal. Feeling well. I have done a lot of exercise and eaten pretty well.

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8/29/14 5:06 P

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Hi everyone, I hope you all have a great Friday and weekend. Linda B, I sure hope that they can find some thing to help you asap. Take care everyone. Janette

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Hi Everyone, sorry I have been out of pocket. Rough two days. I had a severe attack last night around midnight and it lasted till 4 am. I am wiped out. Dr wants me to go to the ER with my next attack. The Dr appt went ok I guess. I have to repeat the upper endoscope in November. It is a small spot but it is pre cancerous so She is going to monitor my esophagus closely. The Dr also put me on an antidepressant that is used to control the spasms and pain. It zombies me out yesterday. Not a great feeling at all.

I hope everyone has a great holiday weekend!! emoticon

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Supposedly drinking warm to hot drinks helps you to have a bm too, like tea, coffee, or even water with a little lemon in it, you could add honey to taste too. The lemon water is suppose to help you lose weight too, supposedly it helps flush toxic stuff out of you.

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i was so busy preparing for a meeting at my house that i ate horrible yesterday and am feeling the effects today. my appite is gone and i haven't had a bm since wednesday. i just feel tired and not motivated. i am going to try to go for a walk with the dogs and hope that helps get some of the bloating down. im going to try to eat some fruit too. maybe today will be a veggie and fruit only day.

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8/29/14 12:35 A

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Have a great Friday and weekend everyone

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Happy Thursday everyone

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Happy Wed every one, all my best to you all always

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Thanks ladies! All my best to you all always.

I would say at least half if not more of the times he tries to stay home he is faking it, lol. I could tell by the way his mom was talking Monday that she really didn't believe the kid. And the father, didn't believe it either.

Well all my best to you all always.

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Today I had an appointment and it turned out well. But I was still happy when it was over. I walked for over 3 miles today. That was my only exercise. I really need to do more strength training tomorrow. I did a bit of household chores today. Hubby wanted to go out to dinner, which we did. I split have of my entree and brought the rest home. I felt pretty well today.

Janette - yes, sometimes kids fake their illnesses instead of going to school. I do hope he was not really sick. I faked many days of illness to get out of school.

LindaB - good luck at the doctor tomorrow. I do hope it turns out well.

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Well seems the boy was well enough to make it through the day at school and is already trying to make plans for something fun to do on his day off Monday.

Take care everyone.

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Thanks Linda B! I knew the bf in high school and met him again just after his marriage broke up and the boy was only 4. I keep telling the dad that they were spoiling him too much and that it wasn't helping him, that it was just going to make it harder later. But he didn't seem to want to hear it, and still doesn't seem to want to hear it. The 3 of them think I am too hard on the kid. They never really taught the kid to sooth himself, to take naps at scheduled times, none of that stuff. The kid would throw fits and they would get tired of listening to it and just let him get up from naps after a few seconds or mins. The kid hated preschool because they made him take naps. So he hardly went to it, or they would get him out of class early because he was not following the rules of the class, and constantly whining about not wanting to take naps. I use to have Monday's and Friday's off during that time, and so they were always trying to get me to watch the kid on those days to get the kid out of having to take a nap in class. Same with night time, the kid hates to go to bed, so a lot of time they just let him stay up all night watching cartoons or such until he finally passes out.
I wasn't brought up that way! Growing up we always had dinner around 4-5 pm, and then us three kids would have to get bathed and ready for bed right after that. We would be allowed to watch Disney like shows on TV with our parents until about 7 - 8 pm I believe it was, and then we had to go off to our bedrooms. There were no TV, radio or any thing like that allowed after bedtime. And we didn't get to fall asleep out in the living room. If we were home sick from school we had to stay in our bed, no TV, radio, or games, or any type of playing. We could read a book in bed, or work on our home work in bed if we were up to it, but that was about it. And just because the clock showed that school was out, didn't mean that we were off the hook and could get out of bed and start running around and playing just because we wanted to say we felt better. This kid tries that all the time: "Oh, school is out", or "dad's home" now I can get up and do what ever I want again. And then as it is getting later in the evening he will start coughing to try to act sick again, so he can try to get another day off of school. That is exactly what happened last night. Before his dad even got home the kid tried to talk his way into getting off the couch and going into the ofc to play on his computer. But it didn't work, I wasn't falling for that. Then when his dad got home he got up from the couch and tried again to get his dad to play a computer game with him, or let him go out side to play. Then after dinner his dad was looking for a family show for us all to watch and the dad noticed that the kid had ordered a premium movie on the TV. I had saw the kid was watching a movie just before and after the dad got home, but I thought it was one that his dad had put on there for him. So I told the dad, that maybe it was time to put a password on the TV so the kid can't order stuff with out us knowing. As I can't watch him 24/7, and this in not the first time the kid has done it. So then after the kid got told that he wasn't allowed to use the search mode any more, or order any thing any more, the kid started doing a coughing thing. But didn't want to brush his teeth and get ready for bed. The dad was nice enough to put on the movie that the kid ordered and let him watch it before sending him to bed. But still once it was over the kid didn't want to get ready for bed or to go to bed. But he was coughing on and off. Once the kid went to sleep, there wasn't a sound out of him, no sniffles, no clearing the throat, no coughs, nothing. He first woke up today and no sounds of being sick. But closer to time to go to school and the coughing came on again, and the complaints about the stomach too. But his dad told him to get ready for school any ways and took him. I don't know if the kid was really faking it or not, but it sounded and looked like it to me, and I guess it did to the dad too.

Well have a great day everyone. Janette

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That's good news Linda! I hope you are doing well and staying cool.

Janette it sounds like a handful on your part. Sometimes parents do more harm than good trying to compensate for the situation. It sounds like your positive and firm reinforcement is just what he needs. I also think you are doing very well in handling stress that your IBS has not bothered you. Well done!

I hope to figure out what my IBS triggers are one day. There is no rhyme or reason to my reactions. One day I am fine eating something, and the next I am doubled over eating the same item. I see my Gastroenterologist tomorrow to discuss treatment options for Barrett's Disease and my IBSD.

I hope everyone has a great Tuesday.

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So glad to hear it Linda.

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I had a busy and good day. No tummy issues.

Happy Tuesday!

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Thanks Linda B, He has always hated school ever since preschool. Doesn't matter if he likes his teacher or not, just hates school. Luckily he supposedly likes his new teacher this yr. Dr thinks it is an anxiety issue, he saw school counselors and professionals just before the end of last yr and the beginning of this yr. I think today had to do with his mom leaving for another business trip again today too, she has been gone more than home it seems with this new job she got. Plus when he stays home both his parents let him stay on a couch and watch TV all day, or fun stuff like that. That is what he did all day, just sat there and watched TV and keep begging for more food. Supposedly his stomach was upset and his throat sore? But didn't seem like any thing was wrong with him to me but he wanted to stay home and play on his iPad and watch TV. No sniffles, no cough, no sore throat sounding voice, no it hurts to eat, nothing. And as soon as his dad was home, it was a miracle and he was cured and wanted to play with his dad and the dogs, luckily his dad said no playing since he didn't go to school. And his mom is suppose to be back tomorrow, so maybe he will have more of an incentive to go to school tomorrow so that he can go back to her afterwards.
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Is there a teacher that is too hard on him or possibly some of the kids giving him a hard time? My daughter did this to me and it ended up being the teacher and the class. I had her transferred to another class and the rest of the year went smoothly. I actually went to the school and stayed in class to observe so it gave me a clear ideal of what was going on.

Hope you guys have a great Tuesday!

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I have the boy home with me again today, said he didn't feel up to going to school.

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Thanks so much Linda B! It was way up north of us, I didn't even feel it, just found out about it online like most people. I pray and feel sorry for those it did effect.

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Janette I am praying that you guys are all okay and safe. Saw the news about the quake and thought of you. Praying it doesn't reach you guys.

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Thanks Linda B. Well the mom is going to be going out of town again Monday, and then coming back Tues and Wed, but then leaving again Thurs. So we are going to switch Tues & Thurs night with her. So the boy didn't want to come over here tonight to go out even just for dinner out. So we decided to stay in tonight, and next weekend while we have him we will go out and celebrate his dad's birthday together as a family. That was the dad's choice, as he wanted his son there. So the dad decided that today was going to be a football/sports on TV day and he is enjoying himself in the living room. He made himself hot wings for his brunch, which I choose not to have any of. I settled for my usual oatmeal, fruit, and salad. Tonight he is suppose to grill us some steaks later in the evening, also his choice. We still have a coupon for Marie Callender's or another restaurant that we could have gone to tonight by ourselves. But I guess we will probably keep them for another night with the son is with us again too.

Well all my best to you all always.

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Well done Janette! From what I have learned in the past you handled it perfectly. Hope your BF has a great birthday celebration.



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Thanks ladies! He he saw a school counselor just before the end of last yr, and then went on to see a specialist probably about a half dozen times since then. But the mom is the one that took him and pushed for it. Supposedly the kid didn't want to go at first, or at least that is what he told us. He seems to tell her one thing and us another a lot, so we just don't always know what the real story is. Just before the school yr ended he supposedly told the school principle and counselor that he hated me, and the mom and principle both told the father that, and then later the father told me. But the dad, nor I had questioned the son about that. The dad only seemed interested in asking the boy about what he hated so much about school that got him in trouble and sent to the principle and counselor in the first place. So when we had our little talk Tues night I brought up what he had said about, me and let him know that I had been told exactly what he had been saying to his mom, the principle, and counselor about me, and he acted really surprised and shocked that I knew. And I could tell that he was waiting for me to yell at him for it or punish him so way for it. But instead I just told him that I wished that if he had some thing to say like about me that he would just come to me and talk to me. That if he was mad or upset with me in any way, or didn't like what I said or did, or didn't say or do, that he should just talk to me and that maybe things could be changed, or maybe not. Like I won't let him drop out of school because it is against the law. But then some thing like getting to stay up later once in a while might be do-able? So he seemed happy with that and relieved that I wasn't acting mad at him for what he said. A day later he pulled me aside and tried to act like that was all said when he was a little kid when we first met. And he said it was just because he didn't want to like me, because he thought that his dad wanted to replace his mom with me. And wanted me to be his mom, instead of his mom. So I told him that I wasn't talking about when he was a little kid, that I was talking about what he had just said about a month ago to his principle and school counselor. But that it was okay, he didn't have to explain to me why he told them what he did. And that whether I ever marry his dad or not, I will never be taking his mom's place, she will always be his mom. And then I just reminded him that if he ever had a problem with me again over any thing, or any questions again, that he could just come to me and talk to me and we could try to work out a compromise if at all possible.

So I think he is feeling much better about our relationship right now. And I think that he gets that I am not trying to take his mom's place, or exclude his mom, or exclude him from any thing.

But I still think he is a sad and confused kid. I know his mom has talked trash about me behind my back, and I am now wondering, if she is responsible for any of his thinking that I his dad and I were trying to replace her? I know his dad and I have tried to ease that type of feeling before. And I know that we had to keep letting him know in the beginning that even if his dad and I were not together, there was no way that his dad was going to go back to his mom. As the boy keep trying to break us up in the beginning thinking that maybe he could get them back together. But now after 5 yrs, I think and hope that he really realizes that is not go to work. So if all of this is his way of trying to bring that up again, we both told him again that, it won't work. So now we just have to hope that this dr that he is already seeing can get through to him and help him with counseling, and or medicine, or hope that we can find another dr that can find some way to help him.
Well take care ladies. It is the bf's birthday tomorrow so we are going to go out to dinner, I don't know if the boy will leave his mom to go out with us or not?

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Linda glad your back is getting better. It may have been a touch of pleurisy if it was in the upper part. A baby aspirin and heating pad will usually clear that right up.

Janette you guys are definitely in my prayers as well. We went through the same thing when we had temporary custody of my nephew due to both parents drinking and drugs. I requested the school counselor speak with my nephew and they had weekly sessions. He told his school counselor and me that he thought if he was bad enough that we would send him back to his dad (my brother) which is what he wanted all along. It sounds a lot like your bf's son is reacting the same. I would question the meds too, as mom is not making wise choices. Maybe it would be good for him to know the truth. Either way it is a tough situation for both of you.

Doing okay today just really really tired for some reason. Found out my cholesterol is at 312 today and my bad cholesterol is at 222. It has never run that high. I am at a loss on this one.
The only thing I can think of is possibly my thyroid disease is causing this.

Take care everyone and have a wonderful Sunday!!

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Janette - you are so thoughtful. I hope the son appreciates you!!

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Thanks Linda! We also think it is best not to try to blame the mom in front of him and think that in time as he gets older he will see things more clearly. And if he really thinks about it he will see that we have never once turned him down to come stay with us no matter whom's day or night it was, or what plans we already had for ourselves, not on any of our anniversaries or birthday's, that we have always tried to extend an invite to him for all of our celebrations if he so choose to be with us or not.

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I felt a lot better today. This morning I moved a certain way and the back hurt but now it is okay. I had been in the rain which turned a bit cool yesterday. I don't know if that is what caused the pain or not. But a much better day.

LindaB - I am so glad that you had a good day.

Janette - I definitely am keeping you in my prayers. I do feel sorry for the boy. It is sad that his mother is like this - and that she blames you and the boy's father. I think as he grows and matures he will know the truth.

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Thanks ladies! I think this lady has really helped to mess her kid up, but she doesn't seem to see it and continues to do things that just are just cruel as far as I am concerned. But the boy is such a mama's boy that he doesn't seem to take it back out on her. But then she seems to like to put the blame on us instead of herself, so that is what he hears and thinks a lot.

She is bi-polar and having more and more "Gloomy" episodes as she puts it. Luckily I have never been around her during one of her crying gloom fits. But seems more and more when the bf goes to pick the kid up from her she has one. Add to that all the times she is just not available to the kid because of business trips, or other working. Then add in all the times she is not available to the kid because she wants to hang out with her adult friends or a guy(s). And he ends up with us more than her even though it is suppose to be 50/50.

Then add in the fact that usually when she tries to push him off on us on her time for something other than work, or he is asking to see her on one of our days or nights, she is not honest with the kid, and tries to pass it off as it is our doing that he can't be with her instead of telling him the truth. So then the kid is mad at us for not being able to be with his mom. He misses her all the time and acts out a lot when he can't be with her even if he knows it is because of a business trip.

On her days/nights with him she tries to schedule a lot of play dates, sleep overs, pizza parties at Chuckie's Cheese, movies, etc, trying to make her place the fun house even on school nights. Where we don't try to schedule sleep overs on school nights, or even play dates. We try to get him to do his homework right when he gets home so he is more awake, instead of playing and then doing his homework when he is already worn out and tired, like she lets him do. Either way, homework is always a big struggle with him, as he wants nothing to do with it. Both parents let him stay up way too late in my opinion too.

And now as he is getting older he is acting out a lot more. And seems to be trying to get more and more negative attention then positive attention. Since before last yr got out of school he started talking that he thinks he is depressed like his mom and is wanting to be put on meds like his mom. She took him to a dr that wants to put him on meds and the mom seems to think it is a good idea too. But we are concerned as to whether he is really depressed, or just doing this for more negative attention, or what? We are concerned that if we let her let drs put him on meds that it could make the situation worse instead of better. As it is hard to find the right meds and dose for adults, and kids is even harder. And supposedly more chance of them going suicidal while they are trying to find the correct med and dose.

Then he was way out of line Monday while we had a friend of his doing a sleep over. So this has been a very trying week for us and she hasn't made it any easier. She emailed the bf Tues that she was coming home from a business trip early and some where being cancelled so she would be home Wed through the weekend instead of out of town. But she said she was in a "gloomy" state, so maybe the kid should stay with us still. But the bf and kid needed to have a talk with her that would be best in person about his behavior and such on Monday while she was gone. So they went to talk with her after he got out of his first day of school, Wed. And of course she wanted the bf to take the kid back home with him, but she wouldn't tell the kid that. So the bf had to be the bad guy once again, and told the kid that he needed to come with him and let his mom get some rest. The bf want's to take the kid to get a second opinion, rather than just rush in to put the kid on meds. So I don't know what is going to happen just yet. Right now I think the kid is going to spend the weekend with his mom, but that could change at any minute. Or she could pull her usual, and set up a sleep over for him at her place, or at one of his friend's house so she doesn't have to spend every minute trying to entertain him.

So keep us in your prayers ladies. At least he has been pretty well behaved for us since we had a big talk with him Tuesday.

Well all my best to you all always.

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Having a good day today and trying to stay cool.

Linda I hope your back will feel better. Back pain is pretty rough as it is triggered by almost all movement.

Janette your bf's son must feel hurt by his mom at times. That will cause them to act out at times. I remember my (step) son once told me it was his fault his mom didn't want him because he didn't like a sandwich she made. It broke my heart. I explained to him that sometimes grown ups don't always grow up inside their head. I just reassured him that he was loved and cared for. I will tell you that their pain goes really deep and they don't know how to deal with it. Hopefully his mom will spend time with him more.

Take care and have a great day everyone!

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I felt well today although I have had quite a back ache (upper back.) It could have been due to some of the crunches I did yesterday. But it only started hurting today so I a not sure. Have had a good day. Kept busy and did get in a walk.

Lori - I know what you are saying. There are times that you cannot tell if it is the flu or IBS. I have had that happen often. When it goes on for 2 or 3 days I usually suspect is a stomach bug.

LindaB - I am certainly hoping that your son's tests went well. Glad that you are getting some exercise in spite of the leg.

Janette - at least it is good that occasionally the son sees his mother. I wish, for your sake, that he would spend some nights with her. I know that there are times that you would like to spend time with just you and BF.

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Hello Ladies, all my best to you all always. And thanks Linda B!

I am amazed that with all that has been going on lately that my ibs hasn't hit again. So I must be doing better at handling the stress.

The bf's son was suppose to be with us most of this week due to his mom being on business trips. But some of them got cancelled and she was home yesterday. So the son wanted to go and be with her. But instead he only got to go over there for a short visit with the bf to discuss some issues that have came up. But the ex wasn't up to keeping him over night, so he came back to us. Luckily the night went really well, as he could have acted out just because his mom was home, but didn't want to have him spend the night with her. He is suppose to get to go to her after school today and spend the night, so we will have to see if she really does that, or she sends him back to us? I have a feeling that he will be with us mostly the next few months.

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Janette so glad things are calmer with you and the son. They can and will push and test us to see what they can get away with. Hopefully one day he will see how much you do for him and surprise you with his respect and admiration.

Lori it is very hard to tell the difference of IBS and flu, but basically the flu would also cause fever, congestion and overall aches. I have acute IBSD and I have gotten sick at my stomach from the pain and chills. It is very frustrating but draining. I hope you will feel better soon.

Linda! I had a bowl of Cheerios and the cramps and D hit me. The next time it was a Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwich doubled me over for an hour with cramps and D. Any other day I will eat these items and feel nothing. Basically it is a brain -gut disorder that has no rhyme or reason. I think we are at the mercy of this unknown illness.

I had a good day today overall. Went to my PCP yesterday and he did blood work to check my cholesterol out. I have been really tired lately and cold. Think my thyroid levels are wacked out again. Took my mother in law to doctor and she got her stitches removed. Now she just has to give it time for her broken wrist to heal. She is doing better but has been very quiet and down this week. I mentioned that to the dr as well and the fact that she is hardly eating. She is not looking well to me. Hopefully the blood work will tell us something on her as well. Her memory and balance is both really bad and I am worried for her. My Mom is doing better since her mini stroke but she too is really weak and tired and dizzy. All her tests seem to be ok but she isn't acting well I think. Our son has not called us back so I am guessing stress test must be ok. If I thought about everything going on right now I think I would be in a constant run to our favorite room in the house. I have gotten pretty good at blocking bad things out until I have to remember them. It's the only way I know to keep my tummy somewhat calm.

On a good note, even with my knee injured I have managed to meet my daily goals and sometimes more. It's a start at least.

I hope everyone has a wonderful and happy Thursday! Take care.

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MISSLORI5, I hope you feel better asap.

I am doing fine with the IBS. And tonight has gone a lot smoother with the bf's kid too.


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Having one of those days when I don't know whether I have a flu or just IBS symptoms. Drives me crazy!! Hopefully it is just a one day wonder!!!

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Thanks so much Linda! All my best to you always too.

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Well, I woke up with a bit of D again today. ugh! I have a meeting to go to later and that stresses me out - when I have D. I will take an Imodium and hope for the best.

Janette - you and your family are in my prayers. Kids can put us through the ringer at times.

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Well, we had a great family discussion last night. I hope it really helps the situation. Off to take the kid to school.

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Thanks Linda! This one really put us through the ringer yesterday and today! I surely don't need more right now. I am afraid this one is going to be hard to handle the rest of his life. Not going to go into details. But if I was a drinking person this could have really drove me to it.

All my best to you all always. Say some prayers for me ladies, this one is going to test me!

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Today I had a touch of D again. But it didn't last long. I really think it may have been something that I ate. I am still taking my probiotic so there hasn't been any other reason for the D. But I did get in my walk and other exercise today, anyway.

LindaB - thank you for the well wishes. Hope all is well for you.

Janette - happy that you are down to one child tonight. More than one can keep ya hopping. I remember when my kids were young.

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Thanks so much Linda B!

All my best to you all always.

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Thank you for your well wishes and prayers Linda and Janette. We still haven't heard anything but I imagine he is okay. Yes it is a big worry but I am trying not to think about it too much so my tummy can settle down. So far I have had a much better day and walked a bit.

Hope you guys have a great afternoon and a wonderful Wednesday. Take care!
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Thanks everyone! So sorry to hear about your son, Linda B. All my best to you and your family always.

All my best to you all always.

Well I am down to just one kid here tonight, and he will be here all week with us and his mom is on business trips all week. He starts back to school Wed thought, so I get to drop him off to school Wed & Thurs for the bf and his ex. And then the house is mine during the day again, yeah! Did tons of dishes and pots and pans stacked up to deal with today since the boil water order is over, and tons of laundry too. Still have more laundry for tomorrow to deal with, I am calling it a night though. Take care

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I felt well today. I went to the gym and also got other exercise. So thankful that this was a good day. But I am so tired this evening. Ready to hit the sack.

LindaB - I certainly pray that your son's tests turn out well. That is a very big worry for you.

Janette - happy to hear that your boil water advisory is over.

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Janette so glad your boil water is over. Sounds like you had a mini cub group lol!! I always had a lot of girls in my house and I so miss that now.

Linda I am sorry you are having issues still as well. Yes it does seem to be a lot. We just found out our son was in the hospital due to high blood pressure and is having a stress test done. He is 38. He never called us because he didn't want to worry my MIL. When it rains....
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It was a quiet day mostly so took it easy today.

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Thanks everyone! Woo Hoo, the boil water order is over, and luckily, I don't feel any worse than before. The bf on the other hand said he had the big D all day yesterday while they were out fishing. I still have an extra kid here today, and for a bit there the neighbor boy was here too!

Well all my best to you all always. Janette

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I hope that you are all doing well. Sunday brought a bit of D for me. Not certain what I ate to cause it. But it did not come with a lot of cramping. Feeling better now.

Janette - I am glad that you have more bottled water. I hope that they call off the boil water alert soon.

LindaB - so sorry about your hubby. I am so sorry that there has been so much illness with your family members.

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Thanks Linda B, Well I still haven't heard anything about calling off the boil water order. So I had the guys pick up more water as they came back in from fishing as they decided to bring a friend of the son's home with them that went fishing with them. So still doing the bottled water thing, and I will have two kids home all day with me tomorrow too.

I too have a bathing suit with a skirt built in.

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Janette so sorry for the boil water thing. It is aweful to go through and then you have to flush out all the pipes to boot until you are comfortable. We went through that in 2010 when we had the huge flood in Nashville and it flooded two of the main water treatment plants. Good luck with that. I will say a prayer for you that the meds keep you safe and well.

Linda so glad you are feeling better as well. I am like you, I do not enjoy shopping for suits at all. They always say we are our own worst critic. I am really hippy so I tend to go for the skirted suits myself or the shorts.

I did rest today as it was a rainy day and lounged watching my favorite non denominational pastor and hallmark movies. Hubby has had 3 really bad days and can hardly walk so he has stayed in bed. I told him I was going drill sergeant on him mid week if he wasn't better and he would see his doctor. His mom sees her oncologist Tuesday and Wednesday she gets her stitches taken out. The broken wrist is healing. I spent the day with my Mom Friday and so enjoyed that. She is still pretty weak.
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Thanks Linda, Luckily we already had some bottled water. And the guys will be gone fishing in Mexico supposedly most of tomorrow. So I will probably end up going to the store to pick us up more water if they don't call it off tomorrow. I am just washing the dishes from tonight and throwing them in the dish washer to run it tomorrow if the boil order is called off. But I did read that I could go a head and run it now, but just make sure to set it for a sanitation rinse. But hoping it the order gets called off fast. Other wise we might move to disposable stuff to eat on and with. All my best to you all always.

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