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Saturday, June 01, 2019

I felt very stressed out over work last weekend, but this weekend I seem to have been able to set it aside and clean up the lingering paperwork in the office. We had a financial planning seminar at work and it set me to wanting to clean up, clear out, tally up, and keep track.

The young coworker who I felt was mocking my smiling at her reacted when I stopped. She gave me angry, twisted looks in the hallway, which upset me further. I just ignored her and carried on. New strategy when they hire another new person: I do not need to be friendly. It just isn't worth it. I know many people at work that I've known for a long time. I'll stick with chatting with them. This experience made me upset and uncomfortable at work. And I seem to notice a lessening of civility in people generally, made worse by our current president's attitude, in my opinion. Getting to Trader Joe's yesterday after work, I noticed the crazed drivers who drive right up your back. This is becoming more and more prevalent on Long Island, NY, where I live. In Joe's, there was a tiny much older woman who was standing with a cart looking at the food, and a 40's-ish woman dressed in business attire was going crazy because the woman was in her way. She shoved her way in between the two of us gray haired ladies.I just kind of looked at her in disbelief for a moment and she caught my eye, turned and stormed away. The tiny lady taking up too much space looked right at me and gave me a big SMILE! It made my day. But there seems to be far too much anxiety and anger in people. Kind of scary.

Even with the drama at work, I logged in to SP, logged my food, read blogs, and continued adjusting my habits.

I keep going up and down 2 pounds. But I am observing my own habits and trying to self-correct. Habits like tasting things too much while cooking. Resorting to the vending machine at work, a habit I thought I had broken. Sneaking extra snacks. I'm trying to parent my "inner child", take care of myself in a real way. The experience with the coworker made me feel very old, but I still feel that change and growth is possible at any age. Maturity? It's optional at any age. Carry on, brave Sparkers!
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  • 1CRAZYDOG
    OH that’s so sad to see the lessening of civility for sure – I’ve noticed it as well. Yesterday a woman hit me with her shopping cart, plowed ahead and then turned around to glare @ me! **SIGH** I was going to call her out on it, but figured someone that ignorant isn’t going to listen nor apologize, and besides, I don’t like getting requested apologies. So, fortunately I am all right and just going to let it go. There really IS so much anxiety and anger and it definitely IS scary.

    Good for you for doing your plan. That’s the way to handle it. We are the only ones we can change. Hopefully that positivity flows outward (I know it does!)

    HUGS and have a great weekend.

    43 days ago
  • LUCYCAN7
    OM goodness it is scary and you never know
    what IS going on in peoples lives.Lot different
    than when we were growing up!Wishing you a
    Blessed Day!Pray for One Another! emoticon
    43 days ago
  • MOLLIEMAC
    I am not you Sue but I do know that some time ago I would have asked your co-worker what her issue is. Most times clearing the air is the way to go, then you can get on with your life and achieving the goals you are seeking. I struggle with the lack of civility and am thankful I live where I do. emoticon
    43 days ago
  • SUNNYCALIGIRL
    Maybe her feelings (the young co-worker at work) were hurt and she took it personally? I am only commenting because my friend H. has low self esteem and she was POSITIVE some young girls in their twenties at the grocery store were laughing at her and she was crushed. I told her she had no idea what they were laughing about. AND--in one of my college classes a woman seemed to have a permanent frown on her face, angry all the time. BUT one day she talked about it in front of the entire class when we were discussing problems people have with job interviews (which was not in the curriculum, but the instuctor brought it up). She said interviews were really difficult for her because the frowny face was her natural expression, born with it, and that even when she smiled she looked stern--and goofy. After that though, more people talked to her (including myself) and she seemed to come out of her shell, frowny face and all.

    You are right though--it's not your problem and you are not obligated to be peachy keen to everyone. Bless you for throwing a glare at that pushy woman at TJ's! Civility takes courage. Being rude does not.
    43 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/1/2019 10:57:38 PM
  • CHRISTINEBWD
    Oh my gosh that girl is CRAZY! Just forget about her, her opinion of ANYTHING does not matter.

    You are doing great! Besides she is just jealous of your hair! :-)
    43 days ago
  • WARRIORSUE

    You're blaming Trump for people's attitudes? You know I'm on Long Island too, and I think some people have always been a@@holes, LOL.

    I'm sorry that you are feeling uncomfortable at work, that must be really lousy for you. Glad that you have enough people there you feel comfortable with, still.

    ((HUGS))
    43 days ago
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